Our search for true love
There is a deep longing within all of us to meet that perfect someone who will be the answer to all our problems, who will understand us like nobody else does and will be there with us through all our highs and lows in life.
Date: 10th July 2015
We are all searching for that perfect lover, soul mate or companion who will complete us forever. There is a deep longing within all of us to meet that perfect someone who will be the answer to all our problems, who will understand us like nobody else does and will be there with us through all our highs and lows in life.
If you look at myriad cultures from across the world, all their literature, music and poetry is centered on the most beautiful emotion of love. A deep longing for true love seems to be tying everyone together. So, where is this true friend or companion? People are searching everywhere, but nobody has really found that everlasting love. In the modern culture, a person meets someone and thinks he or she has found love. But a few days later the same person says, “The love has lost its magic”. This means they never really found love in the first place because ‘True Love’ cannot ever lose its magic. It is ever-growing, everlasting and ever-fresh.
The Vedas interestingly explain the reason behind our search for true love. They say that we are divine souls and it is our intrinsic nature to long for divine love. The nature of divine love is such that it is eternal and ever-increasing. Hence, even though material love will fleetingly create impressions that we have found love, the restlessness in the heart will not cease until it receives divine love.
And how will we receive that divine love? Rumi, the famous Persian poet explains it:
“The minute I heard my first love story I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was. Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along.”
Our true love is seated in our heart and we are searching for it everywhere in the world. The material energy has made us forget our original and eternal relationship with God who alone is our true companion and well- wisher.
Jagadguru Shree Kripaluji Maharaj in his keertan, ‘Tu Hi Tu Hi Tu Hi To Hai Mera Nandanandana’ says,
O Nandnandan (Krishna)! You alone are mine, and I am also one of yours.
You alone are my Master, and you alone are my Friend.
You alone are my Son, and you alone are my Beloved.
Thus, we will find our true love in God alone. There is nothing wrong with our present search for true love; we are only searching in the wrong places and people. Through the simple process of ‘bhakti’ we can divert our longing for true love in the right direction, I.e. God. That fortunate soul who engages in bhakti experiences a deep fulfillment in the heart. When with the grace of the spiritual master, divine love of God begins to enter the heart; the soul realizes that this love was all that it was searching for.
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Beautiful explanation by Swami Mukundanandaji. As close as we are to GOD, so close is GOD to us.
So true. Until our hearts find complete security and significance in God’s unconditional love, we will never be satisfied.
Swamiji just nailed it down so precisely, the struggle to find true love in material world is never ending, rather there is no true love in this material world. So appropriately said by Swami ji : ‘True Love’ cannot ever lose its magic. It is ever-growing, everlasting and ever-fresh. God’s love is the true love and he is the true lover. Thank you Swami ji for enlightening us with this article.
Shree Krishna is always next to us. We just need to realize that and advance towards him.
Shree Krishna is our only true love. It is in our heart and we need to embrace it with pure devotion and surrender.
woww!! so powerful and liberating
Yes Swamiji, how much ever we get in the world or how many people we meet through out the life but our search still goes on. But when we understand that we are divine souls not the body then our direction of search will go towards God. By doing unalloyed devotion to God & Guru and with the grace of True spiritual master one day we will definitely meet our true beloved.
It is beautiful to hear it just like this from Swami Mukundananda. Our one True Love is always with us in the heart, as close as the heartbeat…. so close that we forget the sweet presence of God. This short article is a precious reminder to simply remember God.
It is our never ending search to find happiness, joy and love in life as we are part of the the divine who is the epitome of happiness.. Our true friend, master, lover, son etc. always resides within us and all we need to do is establish a loving relationship with him to receive the love we have been searching since eternal lifetimes. Thank you Swami ji for so beautifully putting this in order.
So interesting,Our true love is seated in our heart and we are searching for it everywhere in the world!!!
Very nice.The nature of divine love is such that it is eternal and ever-increasing.True Love is patient and kind,it is not arrogant or rude, it is not irritable or resentful,True Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things.. True Love never ends.Thus, we will find our true love in God alone.
Simple and beautiful explanation. Where can we find our true love or happiness that we are searching since eternity. Only God can give us the love, care and happiness as He is with us all the times. Swamiji mentioned that instead of looking in the right place which is God we are searching in the world the wrong place.
Thank you Swamiji for opening my eyes…
How true the eternal quest of man for true love is not pacified till we meet our soul beloved, the soul is divine and everything in the world is material so the thirst is quenched only when we connect to the Divine Lord whose tiny fragments we are,…
As you have said in your lectures too, Swamiji, true divine love is the only love that is unconditional. All other forms of love are associated with external conditions.
You are absolutely right, Smita Ji. God’s love is indeed the only unconditional love. The world’s love is conditional.
Swamiji has explained the innermost secrets of the Vedas in such simple blog article. We must follow the advice that Swamiji has given and search within for our divine beloved. He resides within us and we have an eternal relationship with Him.
That is true Niraj ji. We should not delay to start this search where there is only progress and and success.
You are right.! The search for our ‘Perfect Beloved’ must continue internally till we find our Eternal Companion Who is Perfect in every way, and so is His Divine Love.
Even the word perfect is infinitely imperfect to describe how Perfect my Divine Beloved is…
Swamiji – thank you for writing this blog article, I needed this reminder. We need to internalize our senses and apply them to Shree Krishna sitting in our heart.
Once in a while we do come across people who may appear to love us unconditionally but if we stop to think, they do so because we are actually fulfilling the conditions that guarantee their love. At any time these conditional behaviors cease to occur (e.g., following their directions; doing things for them; excelling in something they want us to achieve, etc.), the so-called magic wanes away very quickly. My deep gratitude to Swamiji for showing the direction in which the search would be more rewarding.
Thank you Swamiji for blessing us with such invaluable wisdom. We should stop searching for true love in this world and start practicing devotion to the Supreme Lord.
Thank you, Swamiji, for enlightening us with such profound truths. Radhey Radhey!
What a beautiful and insightful piece of poetry by Rumi – “Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along.” The Eternal Vedic scriptures reveal that while the Supreme Soul resides within us, the Divine Souls, we reside in Him simultaneously.” The phrase ,”They’re in each other all along”, reminded me of this beautiful truth – “I reside in Him while He resides within me”.
Shri Kripalu ji Maharaj has also reminded us repeatedly of this supremely beautiful truth, “Our Divine Beloved is seated in our heart”. It is my fault that I have been searching for Him in all the wrong places, because of being an infinitely ignorant fool. It is only my ignorance that has produced this barrier between me and my Divine Beloved.
Yes the line by Rumi is very beautiful!
Once in a while we do come across people (e.g., family members, friends) who may appear to love us unconditionally but if we stop to think, they do so because we are actually fulfilling the conditions that guarantee their love. At any time these conditional behaviors cease to occur (e.g., following their directions; doing things for them; excelling in something they want us to achieve, etc.), the so-called magic wanes away very quickly. My deep gratitude to Swamiji for showing the direction in which the search would be more rewarding.
Only the power of Divine love can satisfy the deep longing for true love we are searching for since eternity.
I agree with Smitaji. Everybody loves each other for their own interest. This love is not everlasting. This is all material energy making us forget our originality. We are a tiny fragment of God and have eternal relationship with Him. He is in our heart and we are searching for him on wrong places. We need a Guru to help us experience that our true love is very close to us. Thank you Swamiji for showing us a simple path of Bhakti to find our True Love.
Everybody loves each other for their own interest. This love is not everlasting. This is all material energy making us forget our originality. We are a tiny fragment of God and have eternal relationship with Him. He is in our heart and we are searching for him on wrong places. We need a Guru to help us experience that our true love is very close to us. Thank you Swamiji for showing us a simple path of Bhakti to find our True Love.
As Rumi said: “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” God is the true beloved seated within us and he gives us the divine power to love Him selflessly. Without this power, we can strive to increase our love for him against our own selfish barriers. He reciprocates this love at the same time as we express it, in the same manner and to the same extent.
What a powerful guide for our intrinsic search for true love, or for that soulmate who would complete us forever which is right there very close to our heart, who resides within us, we only need to search in the right direction.
Eye opening explanation!! Absolute truth unfolded in such a way that we can understand the true nature of love and start working on it.
Thanks Swamiji for this wonderful information!
Instead of searching for true love in this external world, we must look within our self to find our true beloved who is seated in our heart. Only by the grace of God and Guru, this knowledge will be bestowed upon us.
Thank you, Swamiji for this wonderful explanation!
Thank You Swamiji for directing our focus inward so that we can live blissfully with love for everything in our life
Realizing our true love is sitting so close to our heart is only possible through grace of god and guru. We can only try to clear our heart.