Very often people misunderstand the concept of detachment. When people face reversals or any bad experiences in the world, they think they have become detached from the world. You can see hundreds and thousands of people wanting to take up spirituality simply because they can’t bear adversities. There will be people running away from the world because their partners left them or they failed in their examinations. This is surely not detachment.
If these people were to face reversals in the path of spirituality they would react in the same way and get detached from God as well. The reason is simple; those people are not detached from the world, they are merely detached from the miseries of the world. In other words they are running away from miseries. If we truly wish to walk the path of Divine Love, we will have to learn to overcome our miseries. If someone does something bad to us that makes us resent, the solution will lie in overcoming the resentment not in running away from it.
This world is full of dualities of happiness and sorrow and success and failure. The path of Divine Love requires that we take happiness and distress in the same way. In fact in the path of Divine Love, Saints tell us that pain and miseries are even more elevating because they speed up the process of purifying our heart. If we can learn to see our miseries with the right mindset, each setback can be an opportunity to become more humble, tolerant and patient. In other words spirituality is not about running away from hardships, it is about facing happiness and distress with equanimity.